NUSWhispers – Confession #13345

I'm an NUS undergrad and I will be arranging for an abortion in a few weeks time - alone. My family can never know about it (they don't even know I'm sexually active and are very conservative) and neither can any of my friends, and my boyfriend, though supportive, is going to be overseas for months for official reasons that he cannot cancel. We have been using condoms 99% of the time, and yes...it just had to happen, in spite of the odds. It frustrates me to no end because we tried so hard to be responsible and all it took was one gone awry. I am so, so scared of going for the procedure alone. I will have no ride home and no one to accompany me throughout. Will I be safe? I know there are risks and pain involved, or even drowsiness post-abortion, what with the painkillers and sedation. I'm at a loss. I'm sure there are girls out there in NUS who've had an abortion before, maybe you could anonymously share your experience with me. Note: I do not want any judgmental pro-life comments now about "just keep the baby/you're a murderer" etc. I am in no position, physically, mentally, financially at this point in my life, to raise a child nor even to carry it to term (hobbling around NUS, no less - and even you moralistic pro-lifers would judge and shame); and besides, I do not believe that life starts at conception. The sole point of this post is to reach out to people who've had similar experiences and to seek some company and personal stories and real advice. This is not, I repeat NOT, the post to start an abortion debate or a self-righteous provocation. Do that elsewhere instead - there are plenty of forums dedicated to this. In light of my intent and situation, please be considerate to everything - physical and emotional - that people like me had to go through.